December 10, 2012 by eimrick
Teens telling parents how to parent sounds like an arrogant title, but it’s not. We have 4-5 boys that come in after school every Tuesday and Thursday to do anything that’s asked; from custodial work, to outlining James, to organizing books.
Last week, I shared with the guys what our plan is for assisting parents. We stated that our goal is to come alongside of parents and assist them to equip their students to be independent (in identity) Christ followers who can be confidently launched into adulthood prepared for the autonomy and responsibility that comes with it.
So, after sharing a nifty chart with the guys that show them this goal and objective, I set them free on the book of James and asked them to go chapter by chapter. Their only parameter was to keep our “ministry goal” in mind.
Here’s what they came up with.
James chapter 1:1-27
1:1 Parents should model what it means to be a bondservant to Christ.
1:2-4 Parents shape a child’s heart by modeling maturity in hardships and trials.
1:5 Parents need to beg God for wisdom in leading their children.
1:6 Parents help form a child’s foundation when they talk to God in faith.
1:7-8 Parents who are double minded can create confusion in their children.
1:9-11 Parents who focus on material possessions do a huge disservice to their children.
1:12 Parents have an awesome responsibility to model how to endure trials.
1:13 Parents create imitators. If they fall into temptation, their children probably will too.
1:14-15 Parents need to teach their children how to resist temptation.
1:17 Parents should teach their children how to give thanks for every good thing.
1:19 Parents should not react to things, but rather listen to their children.
1:20 Parents who get angry and react to their children create more problems than they solve.
1:21 Parents need to “implant” God’s word into their children so that it uproots the moral sin in their lives.
1:22 Parents who live out their faith model well
1:23 Parents need to walk the talk. Children will find them out if they don’t.
1:26 Parents need to realize that children hear things they don’t think they hear. Be conscientious of that.
1:27 Parents should help their children have a heart for the least and the lost. That’s closest to God’s heart.
We’ll get them to cover chapter 2 tomorrow.
Suggestion: Invite parents to a youth meeting and have them meet in separate rooms to work on this and then get together to compare notes. Better yet, have them take a night to work on this together.
Would you add anything to this list?