April 9, 2013 by eimrick
Many of you know Dr. Michael Misja. He’s a licensed Christian counselor who co-founded North Coast Family Foundation with his brother, Dr. Charles Misja. They also have co-written a book together that has been published by NavPress. There have been multiple times in my ministry that I have scheduled a session with Dr. Mike to help me work through some of the trials I’m going through in my own ministry as well as personal life.
Read what Dr. Michael Misja has to say to young youth pastors.
What are the qualities a youth pastor must possess in order to be successful?
Please read that question again.
It is a terrible question. If you don’t understand why it is so bad then I fear you’ve been snared by our culture. I also wonder if you are discontent with yourself because you don’t possess all the “success” qualities you are supposed to have.
I read an interesting book recently. I love its title: “Quiet: the power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking” by Susan Cain. She probes our culture’s obsession with extraversion, self-promotion, and success. This fixation is in schools, businesses, and, yes, in the church.
Let me ask a better question: what does a mature Christ follower look like?
We could kick around that one around for hours and days, probing the qualities and characteristics of the men and women in our lives who have made us hunger to know Christ as they do. Or we could define maturity in the way our Christian culture too often expounds-especially for an upcoming pastor: A mature leader is the enthusiastic extravert who is a team player, fun to be around, and is glib in expressing vision and belief.
What if you are an introvert? Susan Cain suggests that you like alone time, have trouble with chit chat and banter, and are likely to think deeply before you speak.
One other characteristic you are likely to experience is shame. You are very likely to feel defective because you think you are supposed to be an extravert.
A mature Christ follower does justice, loves kindness, and walks humbly with his God. He or she knows they are loved by God. And they love others from a heart of gratitude. It really doesn’t matter if they are introverted or extraverted.
I wonder if you have been discouraged because you’ve been told all the ways you are supposed to be if you are going to be a leader. And you’re convinced that to succeed you have to be someone other than who you are.
Has Christ done a work in you? Has He caused you to enter into His mystery and created a desire to join your heart with His? Then it doesn’t matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, have a great voice or sing like a frog, are a theologian or just love Jesus. You don’t have to be someone you’re not in order to lead and love.
You have freedom. Freedom to be the mess you are and the joy you are. Allow others into your passionate pursuit of Christ, and they will follow your lead.
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Next week Davis Taylor, founder and CEO of TAIinc, will be sharing his insights on how to be a leader who is led by their values.